Online Dating Secret “She Wants To Be Seen”

Both men and women often make this simple mistake while dating and in their relationships.

Basically it is a marketing mistake. An amateur marketer focuses on the features of his product. For example the size of the motor, the color of the interior, the audio system etc.

A good marketer focuses on the needs, and dreams of his prospect. Using the same car example, a pro marketer whould show a man being respected, admired, and even loved because of the car he is trying to sell.

This holds true with dating and relationships.

A “feature list” in your online dating profile is common and quite boring. Both men and women want to be seen. Men as leaders, even heroes. Women want to be seen as embodiment of grace and beauty.

Say for example you were looking for a partner for marriage. Many might write a profile like this:
“I am looking for a woman who is loyal, with a good sense of humour, spiritual, friendly, marriage minded etc.”

Most women will skip over this profile. It is common, boring and self centered.

Check out this rewrite: “I am inspired by your heart, your wisdom, your playful attitude, and optimism. I am seduced by your natural charm and by the kind way you treat others. So rare. I cannot resist.”

This is not a list of features. You are seeing her, even adoring here. This would be an approach for someone looking for a long term relationship. You are admiring her true core qualities not just here tits!

“When the right woman reads this profile they most likely could say ” I read your profile and I felt as though you were speaking directly to me. Like you I am authentic loving and kind hearted. I feel that you are a kindred spirit. I really hope to hear from you.
Lisa.”

List feels you are “seeing her.” She is not just trying to see if she fits into your feature list. Got it? Now try it out and let me know how it works for you!